In the new saga with my daughter being engaged I thought I would share with you that she still has NOT told her grandparents on my ex-husband’s side.  Although this week, she has a good excuse.  There was an accident.

Her fiancé was playing softball on Sunday and he was up at bat.  He [...]]]> August 25, 2010

In the new saga with my daughter being engaged I thought I would share with you that she still has NOT told her grandparents on my ex-husband’s side.  Although this week, she has a good excuse.  There was an accident.

Her fiancé was playing softball on Sunday and he was up at bat.  He hit the ball and started running for first plate.  He was almost there when something hit him and he went down.  He went down hard and was out cold.  When he regained consciousness he was very dizzy, weak and it took him a minute to figure out where he was.  He thought two fingers being held up was one.  He had been hit in the side of the head with a line drive to first to get him out.  Well, they succeeded in more ways than one.

He was taken to the hospital where we was diagnosed with a mild concussion and was sent home two hours later.  No CT scan, no x-rays, no nothing.  They said to take Tylenol for the pain since he was too nauseated to keep stronger medicine down.  So off to home he went.

The next morning I was speaking to my daughter and she was saying that he wasn’t getting the words out of his mouth the way he thought they were coming out.  Like he was trying to say the word frustrated but couldn’t get all the syllables out.  And he said to her that he just didn’t feel right.

WARNING!  WARNING! WARNING!

I strongly suggested (just shy of insisting) that she get him to another hospital for a CT scan.  His actions were not normal.  People should be able to get the words out like they mean them and not be thinking one thing and saying another.  Not right!  So she banged out of work and took him to the hospital.  They were going to release him without a scan and she insisted that they do one.  Well shame on them because he has a skull fracture with bleeding.  He spent the whole next day in the hospital on heavy duty pain meds and being closely monitored. 

When are hospitals going to take people seriously instead of worrying about the bottom line of everything?  2 hospitals almost missed this.  One actually did.  He should have had the CT scan the day it happened. 

He is going to be fine.  She never visited her grandparents because for the past 4 days she has been taking care of him.  One more week passes and they still don’t know.  Wonder if she’ll tell them BEFORE she gets married? 

So tonight we are going dress shopping because her fiancé is okay and she needs some spirit lifting!   Plus she has been binge eating a bit due to stress and she said it might help her focus on what she wants and to start exercising so she can fit into her dream dress.  Not that I think she has binge eating disorder but there are times when people can fall into the traps of it.  This is one of them.  She is very happy but very stressed out and is having a hard time dealing with some of it so she eats. 

So much drama in a little girl’s world

Binge eating disorder basically involves the person going through episodes of compulsive overeating. The disease can come in two forms…one where the person eats non-stop for 1-2 hours, and one where the person eats smaller portions more or less non-stop. According to the National Institutes of Health binge eating statistics, it [...]]]> By Guest Author Jason Mesnic

Binge eating disorder basically involves the person going through episodes of compulsive overeating. The disease can come in two forms…one where the person eats non-stop for 1-2 hours, and one where the person eats smaller portions more or less non-stop. According to the National Institutes of Health binge eating statistics, it affects about 2% of the American population. Since this is a mental disorder, you can’t really do a binge eating self help program or cure yourself by following some binge eating tips guidelines, so binge eating treatments usually involve clinics or binge eating rehab that teach the person how to eat properly and that can make sure that the person sticks to the program.

However, before you send the person off to one of those binge eating treatment centers it is important to know that there are a number of dangers of compulsive overeating, but the biggest danger is increased risk of suicide attempts. The reason this often leads to suicide is because binge eaters tend to be very upset after going through one of their overeating episodes. They struggle with guilt, disgust and massive depression. Usually this is just a way for the person to try to eat their problems away. When they eat, that is the only time when they feel happy.

If you think suicide is nothing to worry about… consider this. 1 out of 14 Americans knows someone who committed suicide during the last year. In fact, during that time, there were more than 1.1 million suicide attempts. More people die from suicide in United States, than they do from homicide! It’s important to note that you need to pay special attention if the person’s binge eating is a new occurrence, since drastic changes in behavior like that are a huge red flag for suicide.

Unfortunately binge eaters aren’t the only potential victims for suicide, their families are also at risk(especially younger children). The main reason for this is due to the fact that binge eaters tend to be abusive(verbally or even physically)… especially when family members try to help them…which in turn leads to depression in the people affected, which can in turn lead to a suicide attempt.

Make sure to pay extra attention if the person is going through a binge eating treatment… since they’ll have withdrawal symptoms that will make them an even higher threat for suicide attempts. Also pay extra attention if the medicine the person is using has suicide or suicidal thoughts as a potential side effect.

So if you know someone who is overeating(especially if it’s a woman), it is important to learn all the potential suicide warning signs, so that you can stop a person you love from taking their own life. If you yourself are a binge eater, you need to provide a suicide warning signs guide to people around you, so that they can step in and save your life when you become suicidal.

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There sure is a lot of happiness on engagement night.  My daughter Melissa just got engaged about 4 weeks ago to her boyfriend of a year and a half and we are so excited for them.  They are starting on a wonderful new journey together.  I really do believe that they will have [...]]]> August 17, 2010

There sure is a lot of happiness on engagement night.  My daughter Melissa just got engaged about 4 weeks ago to her boyfriend of a year and a half and we are so excited for them.  They are starting on a wonderful new journey together.  I really do believe that they will have a good marriage and now is one of those special times in their lives and unique times where they are beyond happy but stressed out to the max!

You know what I mean?  How can you feel so euphoric and yet so stressed out that you become a full fledged binge eater?  Crazy huh.  Nope, not so crazy after all. 

Right now Melissa is trying to figure out how we are all going to pay for this wedding and she is trying to set a reasonable budget for 150 people wedding.  She wants it to be next year.  She wants to get married outside at a gazebo type of setting and then move her reception inside directly afterwards.  She wants everything to be perfect as she sees it in her head but it is so overwhelming. 

I’ve noticed her stress level increase  and her body language change when we start to talk about the touchy subjects…like her jackass of a biological father, her soon to be mother-in-law from hell, money, school and so on.  The poor thing is going to have a nervous breakdown if she doesn’t grow a backbone and stand up for her rights and what she wants.  This stuff happens all the time. 

She is scared to tell her grandparents that she is engaged because she has this pre-conceived notion of how they are going to react.  They are going to tell her she is too young to get married.  They are going to ask her about her father and if she has told him yet.  They will want to know who is walking her down the aisle.  She refuses to have her father do that as he has been gone her whole life.  I think she has talked to him maybe 5 times in the past 10 years but her grandparents seem to think they have this wonderful father-daughter relationship.  Talk about believing what you really want to have happen. 

The truth is she wants her step-father (my husband of 10 years) to walk her down the aisle.  He has been there for her as a dad and she considers him her “father”.  What a blow to her grandparents if they ever heard that!  Well its coming!!!!  Provided she can muster the courage to tell them.

So here is a prime example of a strong woman who knows what she wants but doesn’t feel as though she can tell them how she really feels.  She is afraid they will become so upset they will spite her and not go to the wedding.  She is a peacekeeper here.  She is just like me.  Never want to rock the boat.  But it means we give up our right to also have wants and needs and this is, after all, HER wedding.  She has the right to say what she would like in a respectful way but she is entitled to her needs.  She doesn’t need to binge eat, she needs assertiveness training. 

We’ve been practicing assertiveness and her fiancé will be with her when she meets them.  I’ll let you know what happens next.  I’ve been told tomorrow is the day she is planning on getting together with them.  Everyone pray for her strength!

1. Firm up this saggy body using weights. 2. Make a huge amount of money and eliminate debt. (yeah right…) 3. Exercise more. 4. [...]]]> I’ve been thinking about what New Years Resolutions I might want to make and so far I have the same list as I always have every year! Which by the way I never keep.

1. Firm up this saggy body using weights.
2. Make a huge amount of money and eliminate debt. (yeah right…)
3. Exercise more.
4. Love more.
5. Spend less money.

Yup that should just about do it. I would love to say that I will keep these resolutions but really it’s just like starting any other goal. I have set it WAY too big and never bother to break it down. Maybe I am just not that serious about it then or I am overwhelmed with it so I discard them and say it’s too difficult.

So let’s do this together and set small goals that we can accomplish. Take my first resolution to “Firm up this saggy body using weights”. I could break this down and set my goal to be “I will do 3 arm curls on each arm today” and do that for 4 days. Now really, how simple is that! I can do THAT.

Then I would make the goal be “I will do 6 arm curls on each arm today”. Easy.

Do this with me friends…take your resolutions and break them down into tiny goals. We might actually have a shot of ACHIEVING them!