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More stress, more anxiety and more tension. That’s what this week has been. My daughter’s fiancé has a skull fracture from playing softball and slight bleeding in the head. Now he is experiencing mild seizures.
Two nights ago he was out with his dad for dinner while my daughter went to work and he was sitting having dinner and he suddenly couldn’t get any words out of his mouth. He got up and went outside to try to get some air and he was having trouble reading the business signs. He said it was like there was smoke in front of his eyes and then after a while it cleared. SCARY. What I don’t understand though is that he isn’t taking control of his own situation and following up with his primary care physician. The guy should now about this.
So of course he is freaked out. His dad on the other hand just stayed inside the whole time he was outside trying to feel better. Who does that? Leave your food at the table and go check on your kid for Pete’s sake. (Yeah, I really want to use some strong language here but I am trying to clean up my gutter mouth.)
My poor daughter is in tears half the time. She is trying to make him comfortable, get him food, get his meds filled, call the doctors, clean their apartment and work. Plus worry. Plus not sleep. Plus cry. He is very mean and grumpy on this medication too which is sending her over the edge.
I am doing everything possible to use my coping skills to help her. She doesn’t know it but I am teaching them to her. Let’s just hope his head starts healing quickly.
August 25, 2010
In the new saga with my daughter being engaged I thought I would share with you that she still has NOT told her grandparents on my ex-husband’s side. Although this week, she has a good excuse. There was an accident.
Her fiancé was playing softball on Sunday and he was up at bat. He hit the ball and started running for first plate. He was almost there when something hit him and he went down. He went down hard and was out cold. When he regained consciousness he was very dizzy, weak and it took him a minute to figure out where he was. He thought two fingers being held up was one. He had been hit in the side of the head with a line drive to first to get him out. Well, they succeeded in more ways than one.
He was taken to the hospital where we was diagnosed with a mild concussion and was sent home two hours later. No CT scan, no x-rays, no nothing. They said to take Tylenol for the pain since he was too nauseated to keep stronger medicine down. So off to home he went.
The next morning I was speaking to my daughter and she was saying that he wasn’t getting the words out of his mouth the way he thought they were coming out. Like he was trying to say the word frustrated but couldn’t get all the syllables out. And he said to her that he just didn’t feel right.
WARNING! WARNING! WARNING!
I strongly suggested (just shy of insisting) that she get him to another hospital for a CT scan. His actions were not normal. People should be able to get the words out like they mean them and not be thinking one thing and saying another. Not right! So she banged out of work and took him to the hospital. They were going to release him without a scan and she insisted that they do one. Well shame on them because he has a skull fracture with bleeding. He spent the whole next day in the hospital on heavy duty pain meds and being closely monitored.
When are hospitals going to take people seriously instead of worrying about the bottom line of everything? 2 hospitals almost missed this. One actually did. He should have had the CT scan the day it happened.
He is going to be fine. She never visited her grandparents because for the past 4 days she has been taking care of him. One more week passes and they still don’t know. Wonder if she’ll tell them BEFORE she gets married?
So tonight we are going dress shopping because her fiancé is okay and she needs some spirit lifting! Plus she has been binge eating a bit due to stress and she said it might help her focus on what she wants and to start exercising so she can fit into her dream dress. Not that I think she has binge eating disorder but there are times when people can fall into the traps of it. This is one of them. She is very happy but very stressed out and is having a hard time dealing with some of it so she eats.
So much drama in a little girl’s world 
By Guest Author Jason Mesnic
Binge eating disorder basically involves the person going through episodes of compulsive overeating. The disease can come in two forms…one where the person eats non-stop for 1-2 hours, and one where the person eats smaller portions more or less non-stop. According to the National Institutes of Health binge eating statistics, it affects about 2% of the American population. Since this is a mental disorder, you can’t really do a binge eating self help program or cure yourself by following some binge eating tips guidelines, so binge eating treatments usually involve clinics or binge eating rehab that teach the person how to eat properly and that can make sure that the person sticks to the program.
However, before you send the person off to one of those binge eating treatment centers it is important to know that there are a number of dangers of compulsive overeating, but the biggest danger is increased risk of suicide attempts. The reason this often leads to suicide is because binge eaters tend to be very upset after going through one of their overeating episodes. They struggle with guilt, disgust and massive depression. Usually this is just a way for the person to try to eat their problems away. When they eat, that is the only time when they feel happy.
If you think suicide is nothing to worry about… consider this. 1 out of 14 Americans knows someone who committed suicide during the last year. In fact, during that time, there were more than 1.1 million suicide attempts. More people die from suicide in United States, than they do from homicide! It’s important to note that you need to pay special attention if the person’s binge eating is a new occurrence, since drastic changes in behavior like that are a huge red flag for suicide.
Unfortunately binge eaters aren’t the only potential victims for suicide, their families are also at risk(especially younger children). The main reason for this is due to the fact that binge eaters tend to be abusive(verbally or even physically)… especially when family members try to help them…which in turn leads to depression in the people affected, which can in turn lead to a suicide attempt.
Make sure to pay extra attention if the person is going through a binge eating treatment… since they’ll have withdrawal symptoms that will make them an even higher threat for suicide attempts. Also pay extra attention if the medicine the person is using has suicide or suicidal thoughts as a potential side effect.
So if you know someone who is overeating(especially if it’s a woman), it is important to learn all the potential suicide warning signs, so that you can stop a person you love from taking their own life. If you yourself are a binge eater, you need to provide a suicide warning signs guide to people around you, so that they can step in and save your life when you become suicidal.
Click here to get the most comprehensive guide on suicide prevention with 200+ suicide warning signs.
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 August 17, 2010
There sure is a lot of happiness on engagement night. My daughter Melissa just got engaged about 4 weeks ago to her boyfriend of a year and a half and we are so excited for them. They are starting on a wonderful new journey together. I really do believe that they will have a good marriage and now is one of those special times in their lives and unique times where they are beyond happy but stressed out to the max!
You know what I mean? How can you feel so euphoric and yet so stressed out that you become a full fledged binge eater? Crazy huh. Nope, not so crazy after all.
Right now Melissa is trying to figure out how we are all going to pay for this wedding and she is trying to set a reasonable budget for 150 people wedding. She wants it to be next year. She wants to get married outside at a gazebo type of setting and then move her reception inside directly afterwards. She wants everything to be perfect as she sees it in her head but it is so overwhelming.
I’ve noticed her stress level increase and her body language change when we start to talk about the touchy subjects…like her jackass of a biological father, her soon to be mother-in-law from hell, money, school and so on. The poor thing is going to have a nervous breakdown if she doesn’t grow a backbone and stand up for her rights and what she wants. This stuff happens all the time.
She is scared to tell her grandparents that she is engaged because she has this pre-conceived notion of how they are going to react. They are going to tell her she is too young to get married. They are going to ask her about her father and if she has told him yet. They will want to know who is walking her down the aisle. She refuses to have her father do that as he has been gone her whole life. I think she has talked to him maybe 5 times in the past 10 years but her grandparents seem to think they have this wonderful father-daughter relationship. Talk about believing what you really want to have happen.
The truth is she wants her step-father (my husband of 10 years) to walk her down the aisle. He has been there for her as a dad and she considers him her “father”. What a blow to her grandparents if they ever heard that! Well its coming!!!! Provided she can muster the courage to tell them.
So here is a prime example of a strong woman who knows what she wants but doesn’t feel as though she can tell them how she really feels. She is afraid they will become so upset they will spite her and not go to the wedding. She is a peacekeeper here. She is just like me. Never want to rock the boat. But it means we give up our right to also have wants and needs and this is, after all, HER wedding. She has the right to say what she would like in a respectful way but she is entitled to her needs. She doesn’t need to binge eat, she needs assertiveness training.
We’ve been practicing assertiveness and her fiancé will be with her when she meets them. I’ll let you know what happens next. I’ve been told tomorrow is the day she is planning on getting together with them. Everyone pray for her strength!
 August 16, 2010
After completing an exhausting update of The BreakAway Program, the new Step-by-Step Binge Eating Disorder Treatment Program is now done.
The entire 425 plus page program has been printed in color and is now in 5 hardcover binders (one for each module) so that our clients can make notes, highlight paragraphs, use the journal in each module easier and go back to review the program easier. It’s wonderful! The eating disorder treatment program now covers more ground with more examples and lessons.
The website is updated for new clients but existing clients can still use the member login area to view the workbooks.
Best wishes for healing!
Nadine
We have had our fair share of rain in March, enough so that we were in a State of Emergency for awhile. Rivers overflowed, hourses were flooded and streets are still closed because of all the water. But one thing for sure is that my flowers and trees are happy.
Spring is such a wonderful time and I am always amazed by how things that appear to be dead somehow come back to life and create these splashes of color that you swear you’ve never experienced before. That is until you think back to last year and remember that you said the same thing.
I have been walking outside now that the good weather is here and I feel like I am at least getting some exercise while enjoying the weather. Plus it helps me to focus on things. When I get out there and start walking I let my mind think whatever it is it wants to think and by the time I get back from my walk I have a new project to do! I am always thinking. Sometimes it is rather annoying though because I can never just “be”. Ahhh…the curse of the creative mind!
Enjoy your good weather, get out there and walk and let your mind take you somewhere wonderful!~
Girl Scout cookies just arrived in my town yesterday and I now have 90 cases of cookies being dispersed throughout my daughter’s troop. I am the “cookie mom” and in charge of ordering all the cookies and getting them all distributed to the girls so they can then deliver them to the people who bought cookies from them. Problem is, I ordered 17 boxes of cookies so my daughter whould make the level where she could earn a T-shirt!
Now I have 17 boxes of cookies in my cupboard. Here is my plan to NOT EAT THEM ALL!
I will donate most of them to the Troops at Hanscom AFB. Every year the Girl Scouts do this amazing cookie drive and donate thousands of cases of cookies to the troops and they then send them overseas and wherever the troops are. Isn’t that wonderful?! So I just have to remember that I am donating them to a very worthy cause and that should take the sting out of me not eating them!
The other hard thing that I will have to deal with is Valentines Day. Hopefully I will NOT get any chocolate candies or heart shapes Hershey Kisses! I love chocolate and for me I am lucky because if I don;t go near it I am fine but if I have one then it’s all over. So I will simply avoid it and be fine.
I love my husband but if he gets me any fattening food for V Day we may not make it to Year 11!
I’ve been thinking about what New Years Resolutions I might want to make and so far I have the same list as I always have every year! Which by the way I never keep.
1. Firm up this saggy body using weights.
2. Make a huge amount of money and eliminate debt. (yeah right…)
3. Exercise more.
4. Love more.
5. Spend less money.
Yup that should just about do it. I would love to say that I will keep these resolutions but really it’s just like starting any other goal. I have set it WAY too big and never bother to break it down. Maybe I am just not that serious about it then or I am overwhelmed with it so I discard them and say it’s too difficult.
So let’s do this together and set small goals that we can accomplish. Take my first resolution to “Firm up this saggy body using weights”. I could break this down and set my goal to be “I will do 3 arm curls on each arm today” and do that for 4 days. Now really, how simple is that! I can do THAT.
Then I would make the goal be “I will do 6 arm curls on each arm today”. Easy.
Do this with me friends…take your resolutions and break them down into tiny goals. We might actually have a shot of ACHIEVING them!
TITLE: Get Healthy Tri-State: Three ways to stop overeating … for good – The Herald Dispatch
NEWS Get Healthy Tri-State: Three ways to stop overeating … for good
December 26, 2009 @ 12:00 AM
The Herald-Dispatch, Huntington WV
Next time you’re obsessing about another holiday eggnog or chocolate bombe cake a la mode, ask yourself this: “Would you shove that stuff into a friend’s body?” Mouth too full to answer? Use these strategies to nix bad habits and eat right:
1. Get lost (in your mind). When you want to eat to feel better, walk around the block (go ahead and put on your boots; we’ll wait) and think about the bad feelings that are driving you to the fridge. Maybe you can start sorting them out instead of hiding them behind three extra inches of abdominal fat. If the walk isn’t enough, try meditation or prayer. In some people, these calming focusers quiet the subconscious drive to eat.
2. Plan. Big decisions about food need to be made in the supermarket, not in your kitchen. Avoid filling your home with junk, and it’s easier to eat right. Shop the edges of the supermarket rather than the middle.
3. Pay it forward. One of the keys to waist-size success is how you balance two competing forces — immediate gratification (those chips) versus delayed gratification (a better body, better sex, fewer wrinkles, not to mention a longer life!). It’s tough, because immediate gratification is hard to resist. So try flipping the immediate gratification into a long-term consequence, and turning the delayed gratification into an immediate, visual picture. Like this: Think hard about the negative consequences of the chips (picture a clogged artery). Now visualize yourself two sizes smaller with all the grandchildren you want (or just Brad Pitt or Megan Fox lying next to you).
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By the time a person gets to my site and joins they have consciously made the decision that they want to make changes in their lives and PERHAPS stop binge eating. I say perhaps because there are still some people who join that are still not quite ready to give up something, even though it’s harmful, that has been a part of their lives for a very long time. It’s the same with smokers. They desperately want to quit but there is a war going on in their head that wants to keep smoking even though they know it is bad for them. They try the patch, gum, and pills but they fail. Why?
They are resisting. Resisting for what reason though? The mind is tricky enough to start to analyzing why we do the things we do but the fact is we resist things that we feel we aren’t ready for.
So my question is then, when is it time to stop compulsive overeating? I guess when you can decide that it is really YOU that wants to stop, not just because you know it is unhealthy, but because you want to be happier and feel better. You want peace.
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